Anyone who’s ever gotten married will tell you that one of the most perplexing dilemmas of the whole wedding preparation is choosing which people to include in the bridal party. For one, you don’t want to hurt feelings or make some friends feel they’re not important enough to land a spot in your bridal party.
Choosing the right lifetime partner is hard enough by itself already, but choosing the members of your bridal party is just as difficult a decision to make. Don’t worry too much, though. These six tips should aid you in your choices.
Contact Them in Advance
Your family and friends may drop everything all at once just to be there on your special day and help you with the wedding preparations, but everyone has their own lives to live and schedules to follow.
You don’t know if your best friend has some important business conference to attend or other appointments to keep. As a way of showing respect for other people’s time, tell them weeks or months ahead about your wedding and the role they are about to play in it.
Stick to Your Budget
How many bridesmaids do you need? Who will pay for the accommodations and airfare of those from different states? You may have so many people in your life, but if you’re working on a budget, you’ll have to trim your list of members in the bridal party.
Get Reliable People
The bridesmaids should do their share of the tasks efficiently and with minimal supervision. Who’s going to help you pick your wedding gown, for example? You need someone who has sensible clothing choices.
Make Sure You Know All of Them
You need to work closely with people to make sure that everything goes right before, during, and after the wedding. With that in mind, you need to know how best to work with them. What ticks them off? Which responsibilities they can handle well?
Make Sure They Know One Another
Some of the people in your bridal party may know the others, while there may be those who are complete strangers to everyone else. Help them feel at ease with one another by providing them with something in common they can talk about.
For example, give them monogrammed robes as thank-you gifts, or host a gathering that will allow them to get to know one another better.
Consider Their Personalities
You want them all to have a special part in the wedding, but you want to stay calm and don’t want to be stressed out over a clash of personalities. Selecting people who are amiable and well attuned to other people’s feelings avoids drama and conflict.
A Few More Things to Remember
Your wedding is one of the most significant milestones in your life. Make it special by selecting the right people to share such a special moment with. Those who truly care for you will understand and respect your decisions, no matter if they’re part of the bridal party or not.