Hello and happy Gratefulness Friday Giveaway, vintage lovers!!
I can hardly believe that Thanksgiving has passed and we are full speed ahead into the holiday season! It’s December 2nd as I write these words, but in all honestly I still feel like I’m living the month of July!
But I suppose the old adage is true, right? Time flies when you’re having fun — and spreading vintage love!!
And let me tell you: There’s been a LOT of fun lately! From the latest video where I style Audrey of Sugar n’ Thunder in vintage to fun commentary on this ’60s Dr. Pepper ad on Facebook to the enlightening history of sequins, slips, Little Black Dresses and high-waisted pants …. there’s a ton of new vintage-how on the site RIGHT NOW, and I’m so glad you’re all checking in to learn & love vintage to inspire love of yourself and your personal style!
That’s what today’s Gratefulness Friday story is all about: Loving yourself, and doing so by not comparing yourself to others.
I have a feeling we can all relate to my story today — it’s human nature to adopt that competitive edge and judge ourselves against others. But what I’ve learned is that the act of comparison does nothing but make us feel bad and in a lot of ways, is actually counter-productive to accomplishing what we desire to do.
Today’s giveaway is thanks to Indie Style Society, an AMAZING Etsy store with showroom space in the heart of Brooklyn, New York City. Its founder Meghann also blogs on the Thrifty Fashionista and loves to Facebook, too.
Keep reading after the jump to learn how to enter today’s giveaway for a chance to win the prize pack from Indie Style Society pictured above, PLUS to read some inspiration on why you shouldn’t compare yourself to others today — and how to stop yourself COLD in a competitive moment!
The honest truth vintage lovers? I am probably the most competitive person I know!!
Whether you’re a friend or a follower here, you probably understand that setting yourself apart in the blogging world is a daunting task! I am constantly re-inventing my content so that it appeals to my audience and encourages them to return for more vintage know-how and style advice. Sometimes this brainstorming requires comparison to other bloggers and what they do for success.
But as you’ll read below, what I’ve learned is that there is no reason to compare ever. That all creativity can emerge without the feelings of insecurity born from the roots of comparison.
So today and everyday I’ll strive to be just me without desires to be someone else — because what I am and what I have is a unique blessing to me alone.
Today’s question to enter the giveaway asks you to reflect on those unique talents & traits you have too. I can’t wait to hear what special qualities you pride in yourself, vintage lovers!
The one thing we all share in common? Spreading vintage love!!! Thanks to all for continuing to light the flame of feel-good fashion and self-expression through vintage.
p.s. Thank you to CONTEST GIRL for promoting today’s giveaway!
I AM GRATEFUL FOR … NOT COMPARING MYSELF TO OTHERS
One of the easiest ways for me to inflict hatred upon myself is in the act of comparing myself to others.
I believe that this kind of fabricated competition is the same as self-hatred. Our discontent with that external “other” is devaluing who we are because that feeling of discontent is born from the root of insecurity.
It’s the ironic truth that when we compare ourselves to others, we create negativity that wasn’t previously there. When we choose to compare, we are choosing to feel “less” than we truly are. Our self-made “competition” is simply being who they are for themselves — not to inflict harm on us. The pain we feel in the comparison to them is the result of this decision to honestly make ourselves feel bad for no reason at all.
I was inspired to write this post because I often experience ebbs and flows of these self inflicted feelings of self-hatred and inadequacy. But what I’ve realized is that I have total control of not bringing this pain upon myself, because these insecurities are only turned on by my decisions alone and I have only myself to blame for them.
We decide to feel these thoughts of comparison — no one else is telling us to compare! We think, “If she has that, then why not me too?” and “How can he do that and I can’t?” I could go on and on but as a demonstration to you all, I will stop here because it is in stopping that I begin to feel good about myself again. Which is how we all wish to feel, right? Good!
We are all on our own paths in life — that is why I am here typing these words, and you are sitting at your computer reading them right now! Because we each have our unique skills, talents and capabilities to bless the world (and not to mention, ourselves!) there truly is NEVER a need for competitive comparison. Why compare when each of us in beautifully unique?
When we compare ourselves to others, we are also inflicting hatred on them, too. I’ve compared myself to people who have done nothing but great things for me.
Why would I want to compete with them? It is because my ego decides that the best use of my time is in feeling this insecurity. But my true self knows that there is no productivity in these thoughts, and that all they will do is lower my self confidence so that I cannot carry on the path of the perfection that is me. Comparison prevents me — you!! — from practicing our gifts.
It can be hard in that “pivot moment,” but when I decide not to compare myself to others, I’m not only boosting my confidence but my character, too. Refusing to allow ourselves to feel these emotions is an exclamation to ourselves that we have exactly what we need to do what we want to do. Thus, we won’t ever feel “held back” by the doings and accomplishments of others.
So how do you stop comparing yourself to others? Here’s a quick checklist to keep handy when you find yourself lingering in the shadows of self-hatred. Get out and into the light of self-love with a few quick reminders of just how great YOU are and why you never need to compare!
1.) You are beautifully unique.
Always remember this!! Repeat it every morning when you rise, when you switch activities and before you go to sleep at night. Let it ring in your mind like a sweet song. The more you remember, the less you’ll forget!
2.) Comparison will only make you feel bad.
As soon as you put that comparison cap on, you’re deciding in your mind to feel bad. You are the guilty one in the situation — the judge will put you behind bars for your self-hatred crime. So if your goal is to feel good, why are you choosing to compare and feel bad?
3.) Comparison yields no productivity.
This is a big one for me — when your mind is spinning round and round thinking thoughts of comparison, is really ever getting anywhere? No! You simply are fueling a self-driven vehicle of hatred. Jump out of the car now before you wind up right where you began: NOWHERE!
4.) Your “competition” has done nothing to harm you.
So love them! Instead of seeing them for what YOU aren’t, see them for what you both share! Recognize that just as you are beautifully unique, they are too. And celebration of their gifts will inspire them to celebrate yours (especially the ones you may have forgotten about in the midst of comparison!)
5.) You can only be a better version of yourself, not a mirror of someone else.
When I feel that someone is doing something I want to do, I remind myself that I’m not on this planet to be someone else. I’m on this planet to be ME! So instead of focusing on the external which I cannot control, I switch my thoughts to focus on the internal of me, which are thoughts of feeling good in ways of loving self-improvement.
Give all others love and you will in fact be giving love to yourself, too.
WIN THIS VINTAGE PRIZE PACK FROM INDIE STYLE SOCIETY!
Win this prize pack above from Indie Style Society by leaving a comment on today’s post that answers the question:
“Describe a talent/trait you are proud of that is completely unique to YOU (and requires no comparison to others’ because it makes you one-of-a-kind!)”
(1) ’80s Scarf with Perfume Bottle Novelty Theme
(1) 50’s Silk Cosmetic Case (this was her grandmothers!)
(1) ’80s Gold Circle Pin
(1) pair of ’70s Gold Bow Earrings
HOW TO ENTER GRATEFULNESS GIVEAWAY #17
For a chance to win this vintage prize pack from Indie Style Society valued at $50, you must enter between today Friday, December 2nd and by midnight on Monday, December 5th.
You can only enter once, and all winners will be drawn at random using the site random.org. Winners will be announced by Wednesday, December 7th.
Answer the following question in the comment fields or Facebook comment fields below this contest post:
**“Describe a talent/trait you are proud of that is completely unique to YOU**
OTHER IMPORTANT RULES
**Entrants/Winners must be legal U.S. residents of the lower 48 states (not including Alaska and Hawaii) and at least 18 years old as of December 2nd, 2011
**For full contest rules and regulations can be found here
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To spread vintage love, I host these giveaways to not only introduce one lucky winner to the world of vintage, but to introduce all of you to an online seller with other vintage finds that you may want to give a happy home.
This week’s giveaway is thanks to Indie Style Society!
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